Originally posted by ilam96
I think cheating, like many other evils out there, (and its not only for caribbean men, btw) prevails because its easy to do it...so much so, it takes little or nothing to be unfaithful: a wink, a flirty smile, a daring touch...even arousing thoughts. There are no physical chains or laws that can stop us from taking that initial step.
Of course, this begs an interesting question. What exactly IS considered cheating? A wink, a look, spending time with someone without having sex, a touch, loving someone else, sex?
Personally, I think that if you expect your man to not look at another woman and get aroused, you are expecting your man to not be human. If looking at another woman and admiring is considered cheating, then I would have to suggest that all men cheat. Actually all people, men and women. It has something to do with hormones and the instinct to reproduce. And most women I know also tend to look as well, they just tend to be more sneaky about it. I have observed women talk about men when they forgot that a man was close enough to hear. I was actually shocked at what came out of the mouths of some women that pretended to be all innocent around men. They can be more dirty minded and graphic than men!
Personally, my policy is look but don't touch. And, if my woman gets turned on by another man, I don't have a problem as long as she comes home and releases her sexuality on me instead of him. Of course, I'm a bit more open minded than most, but I'm also not so insecure in myself that I have to be jealous about her looking at some other man. I figure its natural for us to get aroused by the opposite sex, so why pretend it doesn't happen. I mean, how many women are "in love with" (insert movie star name here). Its part of biology and nature to be aroused by the opposite sex. If it didn't happen, we would have died off as a species a long time ago.
Of course, if you promised to be faithful (which is part of most marriage ceremonies), then you should honor that promise. And that is what cheating actually is, breaking a promise (spoken or unspoken).
So, back to the question, what do you consider cheating?
Edited by Scott