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SpicyLean
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   Posted: 02 May 2004 at 12:25pm |
Deelady you are correct with your comment, but it still does not give them the right not to be faithful.
Men are any of you all know what it takes to be faithful?  
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WisTex
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I have met a lot of women AND men to cheat. I have also met a lot that are faithful too. It all comes down to whether or not you are going to honor your word, and be faithful or not.
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MERSGURL340
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Posted: 30 June 2004 at 8:24am |
MY HUSBAND IS FROM ST. CROIX (USVI) HE IS RESPECTABLE AND A VERY LOVING MAN. HOWEVER HIS BROTHER IS A DIFFERENT STORY. HE CAME TO THE STATE (ATLANTA) AND HIS WHOLE MENTALITY CHANGED. HE HAS A LIVE IN GIRL FROM THE ISLANDS WITH WHOM HE HAS A CHILD WITH. HE OFTEN TRAVELS BACK TO THE ISLANDS TO SEE HIS OTHER GIRLWHO LIVES ON ST. THOMAS. HE EVEN GOT CAUGHT ON XMAS DAY WITH THE OTHER GIRL. I CANNOT SPEAK ON BEHALF OF ANY OTHER CULTURES BUT MEN FROM THE V.I. I GUESS I AM LUCKY TO HAVE FIND HIM. BUT I ASSUME ITS NOT JUST MEN OF THOSE CULTURES WHO CHEAT THE WOMEN DO TOO!
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Duck Sauce
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Posted: 09 July 2004 at 6:44pm |
One thing is for sure, there seems to be a reputation among Caribbean men as being lady's men. To get so many women, they must know how to please them.
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MERSGURL340
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Posted: 09 July 2004 at 8:23pm |
I am a lilttle ditsy when it comes to certain things like are you guys talking about Caribbean men as a whole or the men from what island they are from? I have heard no complaints about the men from the VI (not to brag or anything cause I have one) 
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Duck Sauce
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Posted: 10 July 2004 at 4:45am |
I don't know. I've just heard it as a reputation. Reputations are often wrong, innaccurate, partially correct, or sometimes outdated. Sometimes they are true.
I'm just curious if there is any truth to it.
There are always exceptions to every rule. But there must be some truth to it (at least a percentage of them are) if people seem to keep mentioning this.
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ok so to start this post isnt meant to offend anybody. im not trying to feed any stereotypes im just trying to find out what the hell is going on with this guy. i recently got involved with a much older man from the caribbean (st lucia) and i saw this post and had to say something...rather ask questions.
im 24, white female, just graduated college and met him, 35 at a local bar. we had a wild sex romp and after a little while he invited me over to give me a birthday gift..it was then that i found out he had a lady. not only that but they came to the u.s. together.. my guess is that theyve been involved a very long time.
i havent seen her yet but he talks trash about her like he doesnt even care...she goes to college and from the looks of the situation she deserves better..(honestly i think i do too but thats another story). everytime we hang out we talk and joke like old friends..hes funny, got plenty of charisma, smart, and most importantly he sings mr marley to me. i GRILL him about his girlfriend to try and keep him from calling me.. i figure if bug him enough hell feel guilty about it...NEVER happens. each time he has a different excuse for why hes still with her. "its complicated" he says. is this a normal thing? i mean a friend of his that i talked to says that she cheats too and they just dont discuss it. whats up ladies.. is this a lost cause.. should i leave him be..tell his girl (dont really want to do that)..should i even hold out hope that we could one day be a couple.. or this is a total waste of my time?
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SpicyLean
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Posted: 26 Sept 2004 at 7:35pm |
Well in my opinion I think that you should leave that alone and call it a done deal.. take it from me.. I have been there, but the only thing is that I didn't know, until I called the house and she picked up. I was dating him for like a year and I use to be over there alot but there was nothing to indicate that he had a woman..He is not going to leave her, even if you tell her.. unless she doesn't want him, then that's the only way he is going to be with you and that's if he commits to you. Girl move on, you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Your life hasn't began yet.. It is your choice if you tell her or not. All I would say is that if you are in her shoes would you want someone to call and tell you that your man is cheating. Well I would but then you might think otherwise.
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caribchakita
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YES..both of mine were..
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Duck Sauce
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Posted: 25 Oct 2004 at 10:06pm |
Come to think of it, the question itself doesn't make sense. Of
course they KNOW how to be faithful. But do they actually do it,
that is the question.
To me, there are two kind of people who cheat:
- Players. These
people habitually and knowingly cheat without remorse. They will
try to keep as many woman as they can manage with them as long as
possible.
- The Hurt. These
people have been in a relationship and their partner does not fulfill
on their needs and they are generally unhappy. Eventually they
will go elsewhere to find the love and attention that they are missing
in their primary relationship. Usually, eventually, these people
leave for another partner.
If you are involved with a player, then what you need to do is walk
away... unless you like being played (and maybe like to be able to play
yourself). They have no interest in being faithful.
On the other hand, if your spouse or girl/boyfriend is cheating and
they are not a player, it may be that you aren't fulfilling their
needs. If you don't change your ways, you will be left alone when
they decide to hook up with a better man or woman.
Now, the question really should be: Are most Caribbean men players?
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