A woman’s brain is hardwired to put men in one of two categories.
A) My lover! (or potential lover!)
B) My best friend-buddy platonic friend (i.e., my girlfriend)
Notice, if you will, that Category B corresponds to a functional and effective emasculation of said male.
In other words…if you are “friends” to an attractive woman who you would rather be “more than friends” with…she does not believe you have balls. She thinks you are a woman.
Now, without getting into how she could POSSIBLY think that, let’s return to the dichotomy of the female mind and its corresponding categories for men, above.
Category A, conveniently enough, correspond with what many people like to call the “Alpha Male”.
Category B, also conveniently, corresponds with what many people like to call the “Beta Male”.
When your current girlfriend first met you, it is very likely that you were acting in such a way that she put you in the “A” category — she saw you as an Alpha male. Despite what some people like to believe, first impression DO matter (an awful lot, in fact) and decisions about whether someone is fxxckable or unfxxckable are usually made in the first 30 seconds of meeting someone new.
It is much less likely that your current girlfriend initially saw you as a Beta male — essentially a female — and then later changed her mind and decided you were Alpha, hot, and therefore that she would sleep with you.
You see, in woman’s mind, there are two paths a man can take over the course of her knowing him — corresponding with the two categories the men in her life fall into.
Traveling from Point A to Point B, or Alpha to Beta, is a rapid or gradual “betaization”. She thought you were a potential mate, but you did something to screw it up (this is an extremely easy route).
From Point B to Point A, or Beta to Alpha: she thought you were a huge dork and basically female, but you proved her wrong. This is extremely hard route.
Let’s call these two routes “relational arcs” — that is, they are not just limited to serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, but also any acquaintance between a boy and a girl, or man or a woman, in modern first-world industrialized feminized countries. This explains why some people hook up when the first meet, as well as why some people know each other for years and finally “ruin the friendship” in favor of hooking up.