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Rogerka
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   Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 2:46am |
June, it's hard to say NO but you have to realize that people won't love you more when you say YES to all and people won't hate you more when you say NO. Take care of yourself and listen to your needs too.
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Rogerka
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 2:49am |
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Scott, there's another, 4th group, I think. People who don't take care of others nor themselves. They only work, can't relax and don't have time to help others.
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Citizen Eve
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All true ... seems like maintaining balance is very tricky and difficult ... then again, on the continuum, passion and extreme do bring extraordinary results ... guess its a matter of what works for the individual and the price one is willing to pay ... with me it is continually changing as the "forces" pull in so many directions ... or maybe average is just playing it safe!?!
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"the time is always ripe to do right", Nelson Mandela.
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vutjebal
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 6:53am |
Originally posted by Rogerka
Too many people I know don't take care of themselves
I know someone too, Roggy
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vutjebal
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 7:18am |
Originally posted by RogerkaJune, it's hard to say NO but you have to realize that people won't love you more when you say YES to all and people won't hate you more when you say NO. Take care of yourself and listen to your needs too.
Oefs, roggy...Yesterday went to visit my aunt in the hospital.  When she saw me ,after a longtime ago.......She just asked me ..Where is my beautiful girl, my sweet girl and the nice girl gone??? After that she start asking me what is wrong, why I don't take care of myself and stop worry about others. ect ect so you know the rest...
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Scott
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 7:14pm |
Originally posted by JuneI have to think of myself more for this year. Too many people take my kindness for granted. I can never say NO.
You must learn to say no before you can truly say yes. Be good to yourself and learn to draw some lines. 
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 7:17pm |
Originally posted by Rogerka
Scott, there's another, 4th group, I think. People who don't take care of others nor themselves. They only work, can't relax and don't have time to help others. True, but in some ways, they are only thinking of themselves and their needs (i.e. their work or their paycheck). I guess it would be useful to distinguish between people who take from others and people who don't.
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 7:52pm |
Originally posted by Scott You must learn to say no before you can truly say yes. Be good to yourself and learn to draw some lines.
I've to admit that you're so right,Scott to what you replied to June, but this is my biggest mistake I'm doing for a longtime 
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June
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Posted: 30 Jan 2008 at 8:13pm |
I have to learn to draw some lines too, for the very people(family) say NO most of the time. 
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Citizen Eve
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Posted: 31 Jan 2008 at 10:31am |
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Regardless of the nature of the relationship ... all the participants are exchanging efforts, some in higher doses than others (positive or negative or both) ... key is setting boundaries and being true to one's self ... intention is our guide.
The exchange is influx and we are all giving or taking at some point in the dynamics ... is our intention to give or receive or both? We may not always find balance in each incident but in the bigger picture things usually balance out ... some call it karma!
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